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The top 10 ways to become a better person
The top 10 ways to become irresistibly attractive
The top 10 ways to bring delight into your life


THE TOP 10 WAYS TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON

1. The power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.

2. The power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"

3. The power of giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

4. The power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

5. The power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states And makes us more receptive to love.
6. The power of letting go.

If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I Let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."

7. The power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and ... why are you waiting?
8. The power of commitment.

If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

9. The power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come Through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, Interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences When you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The Essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

10. The power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person Becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment. We are born with two eyes in front because we must not always look behind, but see what lies ahead, beyond ourselves. We are born to have two ears one left, one right so we can hear both sides, collect both the compliments and criticisms, to see which are right. We are born with a brain concealed in a skull, then no matter how poor we are still rich, for no one can steal what our brain contains, packing in more jewels and rings than you can think. We are born with two eyes, two ears, but one mouth for the mouth is a sharp weapon, it can hurt, flirt, kill; remember our motto: talk less, listen and see more. We are born with only one heart, deep in our ribs, it reminds us to appreciate and give love from deep within.

This article was forwrded by one of my friends. Unfortunately I don't have auther's name. Probably this article can be found at www.selfgrowth.com.

THE TOP 10 WAYS TO BECOME IRRESISTIBLY ATTRACTIVE
The term Irresistibly Attractive refers to the idea of great people, ideas, opportunities, things and more, come TO you vs you chasing them or being promotive, seductive or acquisitive in nature.

1. Don't need much.
If you need something, usually it will run away/escape you. Get your personal and financial needs met first and you'll find yourself attraction vs seducing. Use the Need Less Program for this.

2. Think big, really big.
Attraction occurs when there is a healthy vacuum between where you are and want you want to have happen. The wider the gap, the greater the pulling power of attraction.

3. Eliminate the holes in your life.
Where are you being depleted? By whom? Plug those holes by extending boundaries, raising standards, resolving past issues, healing. Attraction won't find you until you're ready. Get ready. Use the Personal Foundation Program for this.

4. Pay attention to what's happening to/around you RIGHT NOW.
Attraction LIVES in the moment, not in the future. Are you responding fully to both the problems and the opportunities that are occurring -- in force -- right now, in your space? Gotta start here, where attraction can find you.

5. Learn from people who are naturally attractive.
Some people are; some people aren't. Hang out with those who are and emulate them. And ask for help. They'll be happy to tell you how it works. Just be ready to make changes in your thinking, assumptions, actions and behavior.

6. Increase your awareness.
Sounds trite, but it's necessary. Attraction is a subtle phenomenon. You won't feel it or get it until you've increased your awareness of yourself, those around you, how you think, your life assumptions. Use the Distinctionary to do this.

7. Add value to whomever or whatever you encounter.
We all have something to add. Add it. If you don't have enough to add, learn a new skill. When you ADD what you have to other's lives, whether they are clients, friends, potential customers, family, YOU become much more attractive.

8. Tell the truth.
This means more than not lying. There is a level of telling the truth that will truly set you free and attract others to you. And, there is a way to tell the truth from a place of love vs power. Usually having awareness and language is what helps this process occur naturally. That, plus having enough reserve in your life so you can afford any consequences of telling the truth.

9. Build a reserve in all areas.
When you have enough money, time, space, love, ideas, opportunities, friends, you'll become an even strong magnet for what you want -- because you won't NEED it. Use the Reserve Index for ideas on how to boost your reserve in 10 areas.

10. Do what YOU want to do in life.
We've all been overly influenced by shoulds, oughts and have-to's. So much so that what you/we want to do has been suppressed WAY down deep. Use the True Values Program to put you on a path of choice.

About the Article: This piece was originally submitted to www.selfgrowth.com by Thomas J. Leonard, Founder, Coach University, who can be reached at thomas@coachu.com, or visited on the web. Copyright 1998, Coach U, all rights reserved. No part of this article may be reproduced or transmitted in any form without permission in writing from Coach U. Coach U also suggests that you notify the author as a courtesy. Please send e-mail to pam@coachu.com to inquire.

THE TOP 10 WAYS TO BRING DELIGHT INTO YOUR LIFE
Delight is the by-product of enthusiasm and a zest for life. It often comes to us in unexpected ways that touch our hearts and make us smile. We can all live in delight everyday by proactively creating delight and them sharing it with others.

1. Practice Optimism
Optimism is almost always a catalyst for delight. Optimistic people never stay down for long. For some people, Optimism comes naturally...others have to work at it. Practice seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty. When you catch yourself uttering a half empty phrase, STOP, and deliberately change it to a half full phrase. Read positive literature. Seek out upbeat, optimistic people. Listen to uplifting music on the way to and from work.

2. Start A Delight (100 Smile) Journal.
Keep a small notebook in your pocket or handbag. Everytime you catch yourself smiling and feeling delight, jot down what caused the feeling. It may be something as simple as a rainbow, sunlight on the water, or an unexpected call from an old friend. It may be as significant as a promotion, a special gift, or winning a contest. Shoot for a minimum of 100 items on your Delight List within the first month. As your journal entries grow, you will find more and more delight coming your way...it was probably there all along, you just didn't take the time to recognize it.

3. Make Delight A Part Of Your Daily Vocabulary.
Using the word DELIGHT frequently will raise your delight index. Instead of the standard "good morning"...greet others with "What a DELIGHTFUL day!" Sign personal letters and cards "With Delight." Tell others you are DELIGHTED to see them. Use the "D" word as often as possible.

4. Establish Your Personal Delight Dream Team.
Close your eyes and picture eight or ten people you have always admired and respected and whose experience and wisdom could help you. For example, your Delight Dream Team could be composed of Past Presidents, famous scientists, humanitarians, authors, your parents or grandparents.....maybe Thomas Leonard??? Members of your team may be living or deceased. Be sure to record their names in your Delight Journal and whenever you have a problem that needs solving or an idea that needs a sounding board and you can't reach your coach...convene your Delight Dream Team for a special Board Meeting. You will be amazed at the wisdom and delight that will come your way through your special team.

5. Create a Delight Retreat.
Set aside a special place in your home as a delight retreat. This retreat may be an entire room or maybe just the corner of a bedroom or sunroom. Fill your retreat with flowers, candles, beautiful artwork, photographs, inspirational reading material, and music. Use as many things as possible to bring peace and delight to your retreat. Make time each and every day to visit your Delight Retreat. Spend as much time there as possible. Ban worry from your retreat and delight in the serenity and pleasure it will bring you.

6. Cultivate Your creativity.
Make it a rule to do something NEW every week...better yet....every day! Drive home a different way and DELIGHT in the new scenery. Buy a magazine or book on a subject you have never read about. Learn a new skill. Eat at least one delightful new food you have never eaten..savor it. Left to our own devices, we humans tend to do the same ole' things the same ole' way, day in and day out. CREATE and enjoy the DELIGHT in your new adventures.

7. Make Out A Lifetime To Do List.
Spend some time in your Delight Retreat and forget your household or work To Do Lists. Make a Lifetime To Do List. Compile an on-going list of things you want to do that will bring DELIGHT into your life. Include things as simple as taking up a new hobby or as grand as walking the Great Wall of China or taking a cruise down the Amazon River or sipping champagne in a hot air balloon on the California coast at sunrise. Keep your Lifetime To Do List posted in your retreat and begin looking for ways to make it a reality.

8. Declare A Quarterly Delight Holiday.
At least once every three months, more often if possible, announce a Delight Holiday and only do these things from your Smile Delight Journal or your Lifetime To Do List that will bring you great delight.

9. Make A Clean Sweep In Your Personal and Professional Life.
In order to make room for more DELIGHT in our life we must first clear out the clutter in our life. Remove the tolerations. We all have areas of our mind, our physical environment, our finances and our professional and personal relationships that need some cleaning up. Take the Clean Sweep Assessment and set a goal of increasing your original score monthly. Start with the smallest messes and tolerations so that you can go after the larger messes after you build a momentum and celebrate your successes.

10. Seek Out Ways To Bring Delight To Others Daily.
Many people have forgotten the DELIGHT that comes from adding value to the lives of other people. Delight is a gift that comes back to us many times over. Giving delight to others may be as easy as looking a stranger in the eye and smiling...giving a friend a much needed hug of support...bringing someone a token of appreciation or a surprise for no reason...volunteering for a local charity...or taking an afternoon off with your spouse or child to do what DELIGHTS them. Giving DELIGHT to your clients may be adding value to your relationship with a quick call just to say "I was thinking about you and wanted to see how things are going?'...or sending them a funny card, a congratulatory note or a thank you for all your hard work and for being such a great client. DELIGHT, like optimism, is very contagious...spread it every chance you get and let's start a DELIGHT epidemic!

About the Submitter: Submitted by Lynne R. Christen, who can be reached at lyncoach@gnt.net. The original source is: Original seminar material and CoachU resources. Copyright 1998, Coach U, all rights reserved. No part of this article may be reproduced or transmitted in any form without permission in writing from Coach U. Coach U also suggests that you notify the author as a courtesy. Please send e-mail to pam@coachu.com to inquire.


 
   
 
 
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